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Showing posts with label Our Story. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Our Story. Show all posts

May 8, 2014

Anniversary Week: Fly Away with Me

Today I'd like to share our engagement story with you guys! (If you missed the story of how we got together, Part I is here and Part II is here.) It's long as all get-out, but I just had to share all the amazing details. Ready?

When January 28, 2012, finally arrived, I knew the special date Daniel and I had been planning for a couple of weeks would be wonderful. But I had no idea how deeply wonderful and beautiful it would be.

Daniel came by to pick me up that afternoon, dressed in a suit that included a new tie picked out just to match my fancy dress. (We both love being dressed up and almost never get to.) He also gave me an absolutely gorgeous bouquet of a dozen orange roses—my favorite and also what he got me for our first "date" ever, at that concert he asked me to in May 2010.

We had planned to go to a fancier restaurant, but that was all the details I knew. I knew only that there was more he had planned. We drove to Christiansburg, Virginia, about an hour from my house, for our 5 o’clock reservation at the Blackstone Grill. I will admit, I was expecting that a certain question was to come at some point that evening, and a small part of me was afraid he was going to propose at dinner. But I knew he knew better than that. :)

After dinner, we decided to walk around the mall for a bit, which was just across the road from the restaurant, and enjoyed the strange looks we got from people because of our attire. It was like we were celebrities to gawk at or something. ;)

Once we got back in the car, Daniel told me we had a surprise place to go to but that it was back in Princeton (where his house was at the time). So after an hour, as we got almost to his house, he started acting like he was trying to trick me into thinking we were going to his house but that we weren’t—he would act like he was going to turn left and then suddenly go right (not in a dangerous way—don’t worry…). Just before the street where he lived, there is a circular street that you go around to get to the house. Well, he proceeded to drive the not-so-small circle twice, just to make me briefly think we weren’t really going to his house and he’d driven that way just to confuse me. That was a fun ride...Then we actually pulled up to his house.

He told me to wait for him and went inside for just a couple minutes, as I now know to get some last-minute touches taken care of. But probably also to set the mood, as he came out, opened the car door, and asked to escort me in in a very gentlemanly way.

When we got inside, I saw that he had cleared out the front room of his house. Now, that room had a wooden floor, a fireplace, an old piano, and two chandeliers in it. (It had been begging to be used as a ball room, so we named it just that as soon as he moved into the house a few months before.) So the ball room was all set up for its long-awaited occasion, complete with CD player containing the selections for the evening.

Daniel informed me that we were going to first do some Civil War dances that he had learned for the occasion. I’ve been a Civil War dance enthusiast since high school, having attended almost two dozen balls over the years, but Daniel had never been able to go to one with me. A couple summers before, I helped my cousin and some of her friends record a Civil War Dance Demonstration DVD for sale and distribution, and I have my own copy of it. Well, Daniel also proceeded to tell me that he had stolen it from my room one day (I had no clue) so he could learn some of the dances. He had also gotten two perfect songs off the Internet. So, for those of you who know such dances, we proceeded to dance the Liberty Reel and The Johnny, taking the part of the head couple every time. :) Then we waltzed to what I learned is one of his favorite classical songs, “The Blue Danube.” But not the whole thing—it’s too long, you know!

Then the emotional songs started. We danced to Lady Antebellum’s “Can’t Take My Eyes off You” (which I included in this post), one of the most gorgeous songs ever and also a song that we had listened to separately but didn’t know the other liked. Toward the end of the song, Daniel shifted to having me at arm’s length, of course with his gorgeous grin on his face, and proceeded to slowly circle around me. So I thought he was about to get down on one knee; it seemed fitting. But then he said, “Twirl!” And I realized he had planned the dance out in his head and wanted to do it special. I found out later that he had also planned that to make me think he was going to propose then. Well, it worked. So we danced the rest of the beautiful song, complete with a few happy tears.

At the end of the song, he told me he wanted me to close my eyes and cover my ears. So I did. Well, come to find out, the ears part was so I wouldn’t hear him cross the wooden floor and go up the stairs at the end of the room to my camera, which he had set up, to start recording a video of what would come next. The eyes part was to present me with a small sentimental token. In May 2010, after he had asked me to that concert at school but before we went, and also once we started liking each other but before we had a clue that was the case (we were pretty blind to our very own feelings for a while…), one evening at a random meeting, he gave me an orange conversation heart that said “Cutie Pie.” That’s a popular memory in our history. So when he had me open my eyes after placing something in my hands that evening, I saw that it was another conversation heart, which said “I Love You,” and I immediately thought of the heart from almost two years ago. I was also briefly afraid he had dropped the ring into my hands (though I knew he knew better), which I later found out was in his plan to briefly throw me off one more time.

Then he told me we had one more song to dance to. He told me it was really long and slow but that it was now one of his favorite songs. As the music was just about to start, I asked if I’d ever heard it. He told me, “No, you’ve never heard it before.” My mouth then fell open as I listened expectantly to a piano introduction—somehow, I could feel what was coming, and I waited to hear the first note sung. As soon as the voice began, I knew it was Daniel and that he had written me a song (called "Fly Away with Me"). I immediately buried my tear-crumpled face in his shoulder as we swayed back and forth with the music. I cried like crazy.

About halfway through the song, Daniel stepped away for a moment to retrieve me a tissue from a box on top of the piano, which he had placed there knowing I would cry, next to the trash can he had also placed there, knowing I would be using a lot of tissues. :)

As the song went on, I cried, smiled, sniffed, and we kept dancing. As the bridge started, I know now he was probably thinking, “Here we go…” The end of the bridge began: “I’m kneeling in front of you…” And he did just that. At that point, I of course knew without a doubt what was coming and gasped/began to cry more. Then the music abruptly stopped in mid-thought. The CD player remote in his pocket got bumped as he knelt, pushing the pause button. Oops. :) But he pressed play and continued. “…And I have to ask.” And he then asked me, in the recording and in person, “Will you marry me?”

Poor but priceless screenshot from the video. This would be where the music cut off. ;)

You know, I always figured when he finally asked me, I would jump up and down and squeal and tackle him. What did I do? Fit a yes between happy tears, get out an emotional “Oh my goodness…!” when I saw what the ring of all rings looked like, and proceed to sob as we hugged and danced the rest of the song. Tears everywhere. But very happy ones. Not only at the fact of being engaged but in amazement at what all he had done for me.


But the dancing was not done! After I'd calmed down and my eyes were dried, he told me we had one more song to dance to. I gave an emotionally drained sigh, but he assured me it was just a bonus song. And it turned out to be the perfect final dance: a lighthearted, happy song that is of personal meaning to us, a classic called “Ruby Baby.” That was a carefree dance of silly happiness, the perfectly planned ending to the perfect proposal.

I found out after the ball ended that Daniel had written the words for the song but didn’t have a tune for it for a while. He had also borrowed my keyboard about a week earlier, under the guise that he wanted to use it with one of his computer programs if he had time, which is truly what he used it for. But I hadn’t known that he was planning to take it half an hour away to a local college to meet with one of my good friends, who is amazing at the piano, to get her to come up with accompaniment for the song. After unsuccessfully playing with the song for a bit, Daniel, who is known among those of us closest to him for singing random pieces of songs composed off the top of his head and never finishing them, decided to just wing it and told the pianist to just follow him. So that’s what they did. And in less than two hours, their meeting was completed. If he hadn’t told me that detail, I never would have known. I was shocked that such a beautiful melody was a spur of the moment thing yet was so good.

I also learned just to what extent Daniel had planned this day. He didn’t just wing it all—he had an outline typed up of what was to happen when and where that day so he could get everything just right. And he did!

The more I think about this event and all the amazing details that went into it, the more blown away I am by it. It wasn't really a surprise, since we were pretty much engaged in all but the title for months before, but how it all happened was. And now I have the most wonderful song to listen to whenever. And man do I still love my ring. ;)

P.S. Linking up with Lovely Thursdays, Fab Favorites, and Throwback Thursday

May 7, 2014

Anniversary Week: Our Story, Part II

In honor of my and Daniel's 2nd anniversary coming up this weekend, I wanted to finally share our story here for you guys. In case you missed Part I, it's here!


On Monday we left off with Daniel leaving for PA for the summer and me returning to WV. Whatever it was that was going on, I wasn’t about to let it fizzle, so soon came some strategic texting on my part. We got to know a bit more about each other through that, which continued for a few weeks. 

At some point in there, I was going through an out-of-the-blue hard time late at night and had no one to talk to. For some reason, I wanted to text him, late as it was, and I did. It was really a small thing that we texted briefly, and, even though we were too far apart for him to help me in person, he told me he was praying for me and really made me feel better, and the texting continued off and on for the next few days. We were clearly something, again only to everyone else, and I think I was just so blown away by the easiness of it all (I think I actually said “This is just too easy” to a friend about it), that I didn’t really stop to ask, What are we really doing here??

He unintentionally taunted me with this new profile picture on Facebook when I started to figure out my feelings for him. Ah, so glad that guy's mine now. ;)

By a month into summer vacation, though, I had started to realize the seriousness of what was going on. He had said so many things through texting (that was our only form of communication) that seemed like he really truly was interested in me, but I knew from experience that sometimes guys do that ... and really don’t mean anything by it. 

So after much thought and worry and agonizing, I finally had to come out and ask him if he was interested in me or not. Thankfully, he very much was. He was just afraid he wasn’t good enough for me, with our ages, the distance, and other such reasonable but totally insignificant problems.

Thus began our dating relationship in June of 2010, long-distance, with Skype as our hero. We finally saw each other for the first time as a couple that August.

Our first date, in August 2010, after three months of long-distance.


He went back to school in SC in the fall, and I temporarily moved in with my sister, in the same town, while her husband was deployed. So we weren’t long-distance anymore, but we definitely didn’t get to just up and see each other whenever. By the winter, he was living with his oldest sister (remember, my friend from society my freshman year) and her husband, and then he moved back to PA in February. So the long-distance continued.

November 2010 on a trip to WV

Insert in here that my health went south that fall that I moved to SC, and he was there with me through all of it. My health story is for another time, but I will say that I could not have gotten through any of it without him.

By May 2011, less than a year after we started dating, we were ready to get married, but money doesn’t grow on trees, y’all. It didn’t help matters that I had all kinds of health problems and he’s a type 1 diabetic (we’re a match made in heaven), both of us requiring all kinds of medical bills. It’s crazy.

Also around this time, I kept trying to tell him that he shouldn’t have to deal with me and all my health problems. It wasn’t fair to him. We both knew if we got married that I wouldn’t be able to live up to your usual wifely expectations of cleaning, cooking, etc. And he wanted me in spite of them. It’s not fair to him to have to live with my health problems, I insisted, but he wanted me with my problems more than anyone who’s healthy.

This would be Superman.

We were finally engaged on January 28, 2012 (story yet to come, though tiny preview in this post) and married on May 11, 2012. Yep, three-month engagement, y’all. (Hey, I got my dress that past November. Like I said, we were ready for a long time....)

Now looking back on meeting him, the excitement of seeing him, how much my thoughts and actions were directed toward him, I really don’t know how I didn’t realize sooner that that guy would be my husband. It really was so simple how we found each other and hit it off. The long distance was not easy at all though, and the waiting and waiting to get married when we were ready to say “I do” for what felt like forever was incredibly hard. The last few months before our wedding, he was actually able to move about 25 minutes away from me, so we would see each other nearly every day. But saying goodnight and parting ways night after night was the hardest, saddest thing when we knew we belonged together, which was the only place we wanted to be.

But here we are, now two years into our long-awaited marriage. It isn’t your typical marriage since, as I mentioned, medical bills never end and my health problems really like to mess things up, daily. But my Daniel is superman—he does everything that I’m supposed to be doing, plus working full-time and taking me on very long trips to weekly doctor appointments. And always assuring me that yes, he does want to be with me regardless and doesn’t blame me at all for my problems.

Us this past weekend on our pre-anniversary trip/trip to see my baby niece for her 1st birthday

There really are not words for how much I love him—there just aren’t. The kind of love where I lie awake at night staring at him, just totally overcome with how much I love every inch of everything he is and everything about him and pray and pray that our years on earth together are long, long, long. 

He is the best, best thing that’s ever happened to me, and only God could have brought us together and gotten us through the many hardships we've dealt with in two short years.

He's also definitely the best thing I got out of college, far better than any diploma. Those four years of misery were so worth it. :D Oh! And his sisters, my friends from freshmen year and junior year? Yeah, we’re in-laws now. It’s not everyday you get to become sisters with two of your friends. :D

Now just in case you're wanting to hear more about how we got engaged, you're in luck--that's coming to you guys tomorrow. ;)






P.S. Linking up with Lovely Thursdays and Throwback Thursday.


May 5, 2014

Anniversary Week: Our Story, Part I


I’m excited to share that this week is a special week and so is going to be quite different than usual!


Coming up on May 11 is my and my husband’s 2nd anniversary! Don’t ask me how we’ve already reached that milestone, but I’m thinking it went by in a whirlwind of doctor appointments, honestly.

But in honor of the upcoming occasion, I want to spend this week (yep, the whole week) sharing details about how we met and our wedding because, first of all, I haven’t done that yet and, secondly, because I think it’s quite a lovely story myself. ;)

So here we go! :)

Before I tell you how Daniel and I met, I need to tell you about meeting his sisters. (It’ll make sense soon, just follow me here…) I headed off to college in South Carolina in the fall of 2006, and at that college we have societies, like sororities, that you choose from to join as little freshmen. In the society I joined was the sweetest girl, a couple years older than me, who rather took me under her wing and was just all around so sweet to me. Her younger sister, my age, joined the same society, and we ended up hitting it off later my junior year. By then the older sister had graduated, gotten married, and I really thought I’d never see her again.

When my senior year arrived, I remember watching a usual mob of students walking by to class and saw this guy that looked so much like my friend (the one from society I hit it off with junior year), I knew they had to be siblings. And I didn’t even know she had a college-aged brother. Come to find out, it was in fact her younger brother, but that was really all I ever saw of him that whole semester.

Second semester my senior year, my friend and I would have dinner together once or twice a week, and she soon started bringing her brother, Daniel, along. I still remember that the first two times he ate with us, I was in a really bad mood (he remembers that too) and couldn’t possibly have made a great impression on him. But after a couple weeks of him joining us, I started asking my friend every time I’d meet her for dinner if he was coming too, and if he didn’t, I’d look around for him in the (huge) cafeteria, and sometimes he’d try to find us too (as his sister half-jokingly, half-seriously claimed because I was there) and join us for his third course. :D It always made my day if he ate with us, and it made me so happy when I happened to run into him during the day that I still remember those occasions. I even told one of my friends, “He just makes me so happy!” And her response was that I needed a picture of him to keep around for when I need a smile.

By mid-semester we were clearly flirting and seeking each other out at events, just not clearly to us. All of this time, I honestly never even let myself start to really like him because I knew he couldn’t be interested in someone older than him. His big sister’s friend? I just knew he couldn’t be. Why would he? I really had no idea I was capable of stifling such a thing so easily, but I sure did!

Regardless of where my head supposedly was, I waited and waited for him to ask me to one of the closing events of the school year, a ginormous formal concert. When he hadn’t asked me to one of the earlier ones I was pretty crushed (yet without being interested in him? I know, I don't get it either), but when he finally asked me to the final one, I could not concentrate on my homework that evening for anything. I was straight up giddy. To top it all off, he also asked me to the big closing event the next night.

Us before the second concert--so sad about the horrible quality...

So the first concert? We hit it off like crazy. And the second night was just as amazing. Crazy, weird amazing. Like, we both went back to our dorms kind of blown away by what was happening. Me thinking all the while he couldn’t possibly want to be with me and … him thinking the same about me, I later found out.

Those concerts where we really hit it off were the couple of nights before graduation. After the graduation ceremony he and his sister were among the many people who found me to congratulate me, etc., but he stayed around the entire time while all my well-wishers came and went.


Just look at that guy! Sigh... <3

Afterward, my family and a friend and I were all going to go out to eat, so I invited Daniel and his sister to go with us, and their oldest sister from my freshman year and her husband ended up joining us too since they lived in the area. Yeah, there were a lot of people there at Ruby Tuesday’s, but I’m told I pretty much ignored everybody but him. Whoops! I really didn’t mean to, but gosh, he was sooo cute in his orange t-shirt (my well-known favorite color at the time) and orange sunglasses. Oh man, I can still feel what that meal was like… Anyway. :)

So after the most amazing meal of all time, we had to say goodbye. This guy, who I really knew nothing about but yet could not stop hugging when it was time to go. It was just the weirdest thing ever! He then headed home with his sisters and brother-in-law, then home to Pennsylvania for the summer, while I headed back home to West Virginia—six hours away from him. And just like that, just as soon as whatever it was that was happening started, it had to end.

Why on earth I finally found this guy the weekend of graduation—after four years of no guy—I have no idea. I guess God knew I definitely could not have handled a relationship with my perfectionist, over-achiever schoolwork and saved him for the minute my diploma was handed over. ;)

And his blue eyes... Yeah, I did a LOT of looking at these pictures that summer. ;)

Now if I had to wait to see him again, you’ll have to wait until Wednesday to see how this story ends. Okay, you know how it ends, since it’s our anniversary on Sunday, but you don’t know how we got there. ;)


P.S. Linking up with Funday Monday and Manic Monday. here and here. and Throwback Thursday